"Reviving Ophelia"

"Reviving Ophelia" by Mary Pipher:

I connected with a lot of what Pipher was saying. It's nice to know that inside a lot of the girls I wanted to be were probably going through the same things as me. The issues either exemplified myself or my sister. Amanda was humiliated by our parents whereas I was mocked for my close relationship with our Mom. She was smart and never let anyone convince her she couldn't do well academically whereas I fell in to the humiliation of being the "smart girl" that occasionally screwed up so I stayed in the middle of the pack as far as class went so when I did fail no one would notice. I think I still do that. I hate that at twenty-one I'm still fighting my identity. I hate college because I don't like to drink as much as everyone else, and I don't have friends because I work so many hours I can't go to activity meetings that occur during work hours. I've been here for three years and I am still so utterly alone and I do feel a lot the same way that I did in early high school. I keep telling myself there will be a lightning flash and I'll realize who I am, but I know it takes more work than that. I think I'm going to buy this book and read the whole thing. Maybe start therapy for myself.

"Alpha Girls" by Dan Kindlon

He has obviously never been a teenage girl. Yes, he interviewed a lot of very successful girls, and they seemed perfectly adjusted. But they all (with the exception of one) were upper class from families with education and resources, he was studying class not feminism. Of course these girls are confident they've gone to largely all-girl school which of course harbor more confidence and self sufficiency for women. He's a jackass. Those girls weren't going to tell him their problems in one interview, they don't trust adults, especially male adults, that much. He's clueless.


Soundtrack
"Mary Jane" by Alanis Morisette: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fvu-ZvzJjFw
"She Talks to Angels" by The Black Crowes http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1a76FeV2-Dw
"Wasted" by Carrie Underwood http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LeavmGw2GUQ
"Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSG4Cml7HXs
"Give It Up or Let Me Go" by the Dixie Chicks http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ITAdd5a7pDs
"Wide Open Space" by the Dixie Chicks http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nlDPPu53V80
"Call Me When You're Sober" by Evanescence http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cEoP43Pv57k
"Where is Your Boy Tonight" by Fall Out Boy http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8qGUVwUxmbY&feature=related
"Extraordinary Machine" by Fiona Apple http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qWhMrLae-7Y
"Take me or Leave me" from RENT http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CukH2QM7Ni8
"Virginia Woolf" by The Indigo Girls (no link available)
"Wonder" by Natalie Merchant http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3vx3ndjsalw
"Date Rape" by Sublime http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xtb73qp0mmc